Social Confidence ... A Special Bonus
Sep 06, 2023Today, we have a special gift for you ... a workbook about social confidence. If any of these issues concern you, this may help you overcome them. Or you may learn that things aren't as bad as you'd thought...
Social Confidence ©2023
Single Mom MD
Table of Contents
Social Confidence Definition 6
Examples of Social Situation 6
Symptoms of Lack of Social Confidence 6
Difference Between Social Anxiety and Lack of Social Confidence 7
Challenge Your Preconceived Notions 9
What Have You Missed Out On? 10
Situations You Have Avoided 10
Your Social Confidence Needs 13
What Do You Need to Feel More Confident? 13
What Is One Step You Can Take to Address Each of Your Needs? 14
Events or Interactions You Aren’t Looking Forward To 16
What Worries You About These Events? 16
How Can You Address These Worries Before Hand? 17
Your Social Confidence Mission Statement 18
Introduction
Confidence is a powerful trait.
It helps us plow through obstacles, realize our dreams, and maintain a healthy self-image.
Social Confidence may only be a part of overall confidence, but it is a powerful trait in its own right. Social Confidence is the ability to feel comfortable no matter what social situation you find yourself in.
It means better public speaking, less awkward small talk, more effective networking, and an increased ability to enjoy social engagements.
You might feel great about your abilities and life but still, struggle to feel comfortable when you are in a social situation.
This book will examine why you feel this way and then provide a roadmap to overcome it.
Are you ready to boost your social confidence? If so, let’s go!
Social Confidence 101
Social Confidence Definition
Feeling capable and at ease in social situations.
Examples of Social Situation
- Phone Calls
- Meetings
- Networking Events
- Parties
- One-On-One Conversations’
- Meeting New People
- Dating
- Public Speaking
- Being in The Public Eye
- Shopping
- Public Transit
- Group Activities
Symptoms of Lack of Social Confidence
- Nervousness
- Shyness
- Avoidance
- Shaking
- Fidgeting
- Blanking Out
- Sweating
- Pounding Heart
- Urge to Escape
Difference Between Social Anxiety and Lack of Social Confidence
- They are inherently related
- The major difference is the scope or impact (social anxiety being more serious)
- Social Anxiety often requires professional treatment
What Are You Worried About?
Preconceived Notions
Think about some of the negative thoughts or images you have about social situations. What makes you nervous about these situations? What negative thoughts do you have about yourself?
Examples:
- Everything will go wrong
- People will laugh at me
- I will say something stupid
- I have nothing to offer
List Your Preconceived Notions and Worries
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Challenge Your Preconceived Notions
Think about all the thoughts or images you listed in the last exercise. Challenge those thoughts by writing down why each isn’t true or why they don’t really matter. Even if you disagree with what you are writing, at least you are still challenging your negative thoughts.
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What Have You Missed Out On?
Situations You Have Avoided
Even the most extroverted of us have given a swerve to an event they didn’t feel confident about. Think about the last year or so of your life. What social situations, events, or one-on-one interactions did you avoid because of a lack of social confidence?
Examples:
- Dating
- Networking Event
- A social event outside your comfort zone
- A tough conversation
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What Did You Miss Out On?
Examine the events you avoided. What could you have potentially missed out on? Was there an opportunity that could have changed your life? Would you have been happier and more fulfilled had you taken a chance?
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- Missed out on a potential life partner
- Didn’t get a promotion because you didn’t schmooze enough
- Missed an epic night out that your friends still talk about
- Didn’t get a resolution that a tough convo would have provided
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Your Social Confidence Needs
What Do You Need to Feel More Confident?
Is there anything you feel you need to change, acquire, or improve to help you feel more confident in social situations?
Examples:
- A certain skill
- Better small talk
- A new haircut
- A friend to tag along
What You Need
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What Is One Step You Can Take to Address Each of Your Needs?
You don’t have to plan every step of your path right now. The important part is to act quickly. The easiest way to do that is to think of a single easy step you could take to address each of your needs.
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- Research how to learn my needed skill
- Find a book about better small talk
- Figure out what kind of new look I want to go for
- Figure out who the best friend would be to tag along
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Upcoming Social Events
Think about some of the upcoming social events you have. Focus on events or interactions that make you nervous, or you thought about skipping altogether. Think about large events like parties or meetings, but don’t forget to consider one-on-one interactions. Even something as mundane as taking the elevator counts if it makes you nervous.
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Naming your worries and then coming up with a plan to address them is one of the most powerful steps you can take to build social confidence. You will feel much more prepared and ready to rise to any challenge.
Your Social Confidence Mission Statement
This mission statement is meant to help excite you about social interactions. Keeping a copy of this visible can be a big help in maintaining your confidence.
Below is a mad-libs-style statement that you can fill out and use as your own, but don’t be afraid to go off script and create your own mission statement.
I {name} am ready to embrace social situations. I am {a positive statement about yourself} and worthy of people’s time and attention. I won’t let {your worries about social situations} be an excuse not to live my best life.
Conclusion
Social Confidence is all about maintaining your cool in your outside world, but at its heart, it is actually about examining what’s inside of you.
This workbook is meant to help you look inside and figure out what is holding you back from true social confidence. If you worked through all the exercises in this book, you have now:
- Examined Your preconceived notions and negative thoughts
- Challenged those notions and thoughts.
- Thought about social interactions you avoided
- Examined what you missed out on by avoiding those interactions
- Thought about what you need to feel more confident
- Created a step you can take to acquire what you need
- Brainstormed some upcoming social interactions you weren’t looking forward to
- Though up ways you can address your worries before the event
- Customized your own Social Confidence Mission Statement
Becoming more confident in dealing with people might not come naturally to you, but if you commit to the lessons in this workbook, you too can become socially confident.
One last note – It takes practice!
What are you waiting for? It is time to get up, get out, and get social.
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